Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Inspiring Your Authentic Week


“Know Thyself”

Posted: 28 Nov 2010 11:57 PM PST

Up to 2,400 years ago, if you were entering the temple of Apollo at Delphi, you might have noticed this inscription - in Greek, of course. A latin version made a cameo appearance above a door at the home of a more modern Oracle in the film "The Matrix".

Delivering a leadership training program last week I had a powerful example of the power and value of this apparently simple recommendation.

One small but significant piece of self knowledge proved to be transformative for one participant. It explained, precisely, years of misunderstanding and provided the opportunity for a new and more positive way of being.

Over the years since the Oracle at Delphi was the ultimate arbiter and authority, we have developed some brilliant tools to help us to understand ourselves. These are evolutionary tools that help us to stand on the shoulders of those who have gone before and take each generation to a further level. They often go under the slightly intimidating name of "Psychometrics".

We use a number of these profiling tools to help us understand ourselves and our clients and to give an objective view alongside our more subjective assessments. Very often the diagnostic provided by the profiling tool is so insightful that with a minimum of support, the knowledge can prove transformative.

We all have deeply seated preferences and behaviours. Some of us prefer a lot of attention, others prefer to be left alone. Some of us prefer to feel in control others prefer to be free from responsibility. Some of us prefer to narrow things down and deliver, others prefer to open things up and explore.

None of these differences are good or bad in themselves. Some lend themselves more to particular lines of activity than others, but mostly they just provide the diversity that any team needs to be optimal. With my preference for finding new ways of doing things, you would not want me as the pilot of your passenger plane, for example.

The opportunity, for individuals and teams, lies simply in the awareness. Once a particular need or behaviour becomes conscious we can be open about it. It moves from being a confusing misalignment to being a distinct quality that can be positively applied to any situation.

None of this understanding exists in isolation, it is all relative to others and particularly those around us. Our partner at home and our team at work. Knowing that one colleague has a preference for always coming up with ideas and not focussing on the deliverable like the rest of the team is enormously valuable and liberating. Immediately we can stop trying to get them to conform and value their ability to come up with new ideas.

At Authenticis we particularly use two tools (there are plenty of others) FIRO-B and Pathfinder.

FIRO-B was originally developed for the US military to profile submarine crews. It is essential to understand people's preferences and behaviours so that a a team can complement one another rather than conflict.

FIRO-B helps us to understand how we prefer to relate to others, specifically in terms of what we want and what we offer in terms of interaction, control and affection.

Pathfinder Profiler is a contemporary business based version of the much more ancient Enneagram. Pathfinder helps us to understand our personality type our strengths and our weaknesses. Being conscious and transparent about what we tend to be better at than others at means we can valuably offer it to our team. Being conscious and transparent about what we tend to be less good at than others gives us the opportunity to improve or to compliment ourselves with others who have our weakness as their strength - the essence of team work.

RA Mashelkar talks about the transformative effects of low cost design, why not apply these principles rather than implement austerity measures? Surely it is only fear and self serving to do otherwise?. Watch his TED talk, put it on your web site, link to it and talk about it to everyone you meet. I have put it on www.neilcrofts.com

If you would like help taking your team from good to great, give me a call.

Join us on our Authentic Business Radio show every Thursday at 5pm UK, 6pm Euro or 12.00 EST. This week we will be discussing "Know Thyself".

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Saturday, November 20, 2010

Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Inspiring Your Authentic Week


Where is the limit?

Posted: 22 Nov 2010 12:15 AM PST

I have never been very clear on where my personal limits are. I have quite a history of overstepping them, although I am better at knowing the edge these days. In younger days I crashed a few cars trying to work out where the line was drawn. I still find it difficult not to overtrain when cycling.

I am talking about all environments here - creative, leadership, communication, sporting, emotional, physical. We have limits in every aspect of life, it is only through exploring those limits that we get to know them.

It is tempting to believe that we are normal and that diversity spans out equally on either side. Most of us have to accept that, in some areas of our life at least, we are not in the middle. We are extreme.

It is our extremes that make us interesting, not our normality.

Understanding where the boundary between extreme and impossible is, is a mysteriously fine and imprecise line. It is defined by feeling and emotion as much as by physics.

That line is not visible from a distance. It can only be detected up close. Anyone who has not been near that line does not know their limits. It is only through spending time near the limit that we get to know it and of course the better we know it the more we can move it.

I have a rule I try to hold myself to: "Never pass up an opportunity to go out of your comfort zone."

The reality is we do not know what we are capable of until we try. As soon as we try we realise that the more we practice and the more we try the more we can push the limit.

This goes for tough negotiations at work, for leadership, for technical challenges, for how we use our computers, for being loving, for sports and fitness, just about anything.

To be a great leader, creative, team member, partner, parent or lover you have to be prepared to explore your own potential to it's fullest extent. If you are not overstepping it occasionally you are not getting close enough to it.

Here are some inspiring examples that may stretch your idea of what is possible on a bike or on skis.

Sugata Mitra has a way. It is cheap, it is scalable and it is totally doable. Watch his TED talk, put it on your web site, link to it and talk about it to everyone you meet. I have put it on www.neilcrofts.com

For help in finding the authentic path for your business or your life, give me a call.

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Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Inspiring Your Authentic Week


Moving stuff

Posted: 14 Nov 2010 11:55 PM PST

I happened to be at Gatwick Airport at 11 am last Thursday. It was a remarkable and moving experience. The chimes of Big Ben rang out through the airport's public address system and everyone stopped.

It took a while for everyone to catch on. The Poppy splashed into the ocean of everyday noise, and the moment rippled around the whole airport. The Russian staff behind the counter of the cafe stopped serving. The man at the front of the queue, stopped waiting and simply stood.

The excited Turkish tech geek, jabber of the boys next to me stilled to a slightly bemused silence, overcome by the unbearable peer pressure.

I felt the waves of collective emotion from the shared experience and the remembrance shudder through my mind and body.

That week I had been working with a Dutch colleague who asked me about the significance of the Poppies. I told him how it had started, with Poppies being the first signs of life to emerge from the blood soaked quagmire of the shell cratered fields of Flanders and France.

How our failure to learn the lessons of that genercide (the killing of a generation) had lead to the Poppy being adopted in Britain as a symbol of the remembrance of the sacrifice.

While the icon of the Poppy and the tragic ceremonial of 11 November, (The armistice that signified the end of the slaughter was signed at 11am on the 11th of the 11th 1918.) known as remembrance Sunday remind us, what we really need to do is learn.

We are still sending our children to fight wars created by our failure to learn, our failure to communicate, our greed and hubris.

When enough of us can learn from the lessons of the past; can communicate with those we disagree and can replace greed with generosity and hubris with humility, there will be no more war.

When we can run our businesses and our governments for the greater good rather than for self interest, there will be no more war.

When we can truly embrace diversity of thought, diversity of culture, diversity of belief and diversity of appearance, there will be no more war.

All that is required is for love and authentic self confidence to replace fear and insecurity as the primary driver of so many business, governments and individuals.

Authentic self confidence comes from empowering people to use their talents to follow their own dreams.

Is it really so difficult for us to do this?

Sugata Mitra has a way. It is cheap, it is scalable and it is totally doable. Watch his TED talk, put it on your web site, link to it and talk about it to everyone you meet. I have put it on www.neilcrofts.com

Embrace our sustainable and peaceful future.

For help in finding the authentic path for your business or your life, give me a call.

Join us on our Authentic Business Radio show every Thursday at 5pm UK, 6pm Euro or 12.00 EST. This week we will be discussing "Moving Stuff".

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Saturday, November 06, 2010

Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Inspiring Your Authentic Week


Live the Dream

Posted: 04 Nov 2010 12:52 AM PDT

The difference between a dream that happens and a dream that doesn't has nothing to do with how realistic it is.

We all have dreams. We all know the dreams we have, even if we are unable to articulate them or unwilling to share them.

Most of us have been taught that our dreams, especially the big and important ones, are unrealistic and that pursuing them will result in wasted time, disappointment and failure.

We have been taught that we are better off doing what we are told than chasing fantasies.

The biggest difference between those who achieve their dreams and those that don't, is that they pursue it. Not that they are necessarily better equipped or that the dream is more realistic.

It is never too late. Even if you have not articulated your dream, it is highly likely that you will have been preparing for it unconsciously anyway, such is the power of dreams.

Think about any dreams or ideas you have realised, no matter how small and you will recognise that you used a process similar to the one below.

Whether your dream is an influential role in your organisation or singing at The Albert Hall, the first step is to articulate it.

What is your dream?

Once you have articulated it, visualise it. What tangible evidence will there be of your success? What events will occur so that you know that your dream has been realised.

Will you be given a particular award, or job? Will you deliver a particular speech or get recognition from a particular individual or organisation? Will you perform on a particular stage?

When you have articulated your vision - make it present. Write about it, surround yourself with images of it. Talk about it with trusted (and supportive) friends. Keep it present, keep talking about it, doodling with it, lying in bed at night thinking about it. Bore your supportive friends with it.

Once you have a clear vision that you can articulate and repeat easily, start making your plan. The dream and vision do not have to be realistic, the plan does.

Working backwards, what is the last thing you will have to accomplish in order to allow your vision to be complete? What is the last thing you will have to do to before that? And so on, keep working backwards, in some detail, until you get to now. Put dates on all of the major activities and events and then you have a plan.

All you need to do now is to deliver on your plan and to continually revisit it. Keep checking that the plan and the vision are still what you want. Do not be afraid to adjust both.

When I have achieved any of my dreams it was because there was sufficient clarity of articulation and "presence" of visualisation. When I have failed it has been because I did not get a clear enough vision.

Dreams I have realised: to race cars, write books, find a loving relationship, cycle over the Pyrenees and move to Mallorca.

These were all dreams that happened because I was able to hold and make present the vision and create a realistic and deliverable plan for getting from where I was to where I wanted to be.

My big failure has been in defining the next stage of the vision.

I wanted to race cars - I got to race cars, but I never defined the next level of the vision or made the next level of the plan. As a result when that vision had run it's course, I stopped.

I wanted to write a book - I wrote three, but I never defined the next level adequately. The books never really took me where I wanted to go, because I never articulated that next level clearly enough.

As we approach the realisation of our vision, it is vital to take the time to step back and look for the next level. This is as true for businesses as it is for individuals.

Microsoft was inspired for years by the vision of "A computer on every desktop and in every home" - while this was not achieved in a literal sense, it was achieved to all practical purposes and, since then, without a new inspiring vision, Microsoft has struggled to regain it's focus and performance.

For help in finding the authentic path for your business or your life, give me a call.

Join us on our Authentic Business Radio show every Thursday at 5pm UK, 6pm Euro or 12.00 EST. This week we will be discussing "Live the Dream".

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Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Inspiring Your Authentic Week


Red Bull s**t

Posted: 29 Oct 2010 02:04 AM PDT

We all want to be happy, right? We all work towards having a happy life and even a happy life for our kids, don't we?

Or do we?

I think the evidence is that very few of us actually know what happiness is, and many of our efforts to pursue it are misguided and can be damaging.

So - what is happiness?

It is easy to define happiness in terms of what it is not. Happiness is an absence of fear, stress, tension and so on.

But that definition only helps us understand what we want to avoid, not what we want to pursue. And it is what we pursue that is the problem. In our pursuit of happiness, what many of us end up seeking is euphoria.

Happiness is NOT the same as euphoria, and this is where much of the problem lies, because too many of us confuse happiness and euphoria.

Euphoria is a short lived state of exultation that we might experience in a moment of intimacy, triumph or creativity. Euphoria might also be chemically induced through, stimulants, alcohol or drugs.

The risk is that the pursuit of euphoria leads to addiction.

Athletes in pursuit of the euphoria of triumph turn to performance enhancing drugs.
Business people in pursuit of the euphoria of victory turn to manipulation and exploitation.
Politicians turn to lies.
Teenagers turn to drugs.
Some of us turn to shopping.

When corporations, governments and whole countries are in pursuit of euphoria, rather than happiness, we get what you might call a Red Bull Culture - all buzz and no beauty.

Euphoria leads to addiction.

Addiction is not sustainable and leads to harm both for the individual and those around them.

So, what is happiness?

Happiness is a prolonged sense of inner peace. It is alignment, it is calm. We feel happiness in our bodies and in our minds when our emotions feel balanced.

Peace is created through the removal of tensions and the cultivation of alignment.

Happiness is created through love. Through being loving with others, through loving our work and what we do with our time.

Love is the bit beyond the logical, the bit beyond the transactional. We 'like' people or places or things because of the logical, transactional benefits they offer us. When a relationship transcends the logical and transactional it becomes loving.

We experience happiness when we are immersed in loving relationships with people, places, work and things.

Working and living authentically is the path to happiness.

For more on this see what Nic Marks had to say about happiness at TED.

For help in finding the authentic path for your business or your life, give me a call.

Join us on our Authentic Business Radio show every Thursday at 5pm UK, 6pm Euro or 12.00 EST. This week we will be discussing "Red Bull S**t".

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