Inspiring Your Authentic Week

Posted: 08 Oct 2007 02:50 AM CDT

One of the core lessons of our education system is that we are not competent or qualified to evaluate ourselves.

What we are taught is that evaluation is done by someone else, preferably with a red pen and often remotely.

The consequence of this is that most of us have no real idea of our self worth and desperately seek confirmation of our value from others. Once the teachers are gone we look for evaluation from someone else - perhaps a boss, perhaps a partner, often resulting in submissive relationships.

When it come to the crunch of actually saying "I am worth this much", in terms of payment, we do not believe in our ability to evaluate ourselves making it very difficult to have these conversations.

The truth is that the only person qualified or competent to evaluate our performance or effort is ourselves.

The ONLY person who knows how hard we tried is ourselves.

The ONLY person who knows if we are telling the truth is ourselves.

The ONLY person who knows how close we are to our true purpose is ourselves.

If we want to free ourselves from the tyranny of external evaluation, the first step is to understand this simple fact.

When it comes to that payment conversation we can think differently.

Our true value, when we are 'on purpose', to ourselves and others is effectively infinite. It is not about being paid a small enough amount so that someone else will be able to turn a profit from our sweat. It is about contributing all that we can and getting back all that we need.

My own purpose is "to heal the world through authenticity". I know that when I am able to help a team or an individual to ignite that flame of passion, purpose and authenticity in their lives the true value of what occurs reaches far beyond any shift that occurs in the session or any immediate sense of wellbeing and touches everything they touch.

It is not really effective or useful to calculate our value based on the infinite value that we contribute when we are on purpose. It is more practical to base our valuation on what we need to live an inspired and authentic life and then work back from there, dividing this amount by the time we will be paid for and using that to guide us.

For more inspiration or to challenge, question or comment visit www.authenticinspiration.co.uk

For help and support putting these ideas into action visit www.authentictransformation.co.uk

I have launched a new service this week called Authentic Fix take a look.

with love

nx

neil crofts - coach, consultant, facilitator
Authentic Transformation - join the evolution
talk - 07775 658534
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May the force be with you

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